You will go up through cycles of ups and downs. A thought, memory, smell, holiday or for no reason at all. When you get into a funk, you need 1 or 2 safe people to call.
Everyone is NOT your friend. If they haven’t gone through what your going through, they will not understand.
People like to gossip and take sides. If they have been through a divorce they will think it parallels their divorce. And take the side which they identify with.
You will go up through cycles of ups and downs. A thought, memory, smell, holiday or for no reason at all. When you get into a funk, you need 1 or 2 safe people to call.
Everyone is NOT your friend. If they haven’t gone through what your going through, they will not understand.
People like to gossip and take sides. If they have been through a divorce they will think it parallels their divorce. And take the side which they identify with.
They make judgments and think they know better than you what is going on in your life. They also want to think it won’t happen to them. If they have a bad marriage, they live in denial or are afraid they can’t make it on their own.
The same goes for other losses, like the death of a spouse or child.
Learn to discern safe people, look for RED flags like judgmental, self righteous, instead of Loving, accepting and forgiving.
Who accepts you for you and doesn’t try to judge or change you, doesn’t try to tell you what to do.
Instead one who listens, maybe cry with you, pray with and for you.
Someone who will give suggestions or thoughts to consider but not insist you do what they think you should do.
One key is someone you love and trust, that doesn’t judge and doesn’t gossip.
One who has a relationship with Christ and not religion.
Keep a journal, maybe on your laptop or tablet so only you have access and don’t have to worry about someone reading it. Just write anything, whatever flows out and it helps.
Do something everyday, at least one thing each day, so you feel you’ve accomplished something. Maybe just get out of the house, go for a walk. the fresh air and sunshine will lift your spirits. If your in a real funk, take that walk each day till spirit is lifted.
Listen to some uplifting music. Christian music lifts my spirits. The words really speak to me. Maybe you need to put on some music that makes you feel like dancing.
Go to the movies alone or with a friend. You really don’t need a friend because your just sitting in the dark, not talking.
Make a list of things that make you happy and start doing a few.