Month: October 2019

I am finishing an online course “Becoming Mrs Claus”, Writing a book on Divorce and Healing yourself, Driving for a Medical company, Decluttering my home, Listing things for sale, working on my diet to reverse diabetes, exercise, Clean house , help 2 friends out who are sick, talk to friends as they need to work through problems, choir practice, Church, Appointments, and so on.

Sometimes I don’t do anything or don’t do anything I planned on. I get side tracked and work on something else that is physical because I can see progress vs writing a book that takes long time to see results from. Or I am very tired and rest that day, only making calls etc. that I must do.

Paper clutter or decluttering – do 10 min. on one square foot. Work fast for 10 minutes. Choose one small area of the paperpile or one junk drawer, not all the drawers or the whole paper pile. Have a keep pile and toss pile, NO maybe pile.

Don’t overwhelm yourself with everything. Choose one thing to focus on, then one thing within that focus. I chose to focus on my online course last year and wait on the book to this year. I still need to do the subtitles but that has been held up by Russian Bots on the site I recorded on. My web designer is working on it.

One way to help me get going is the dictate button on the computer. I am typing now because I know what I want to say. But when I am stuck or overwhelmed, the dictate button helps to get the thoughts flowing. AFTER it is typed out by dictating then I can go back and edit.

Find what works for you, brainstorm and write it out. There is something about cursive writing by hand that kicks in our creative side. Then break it down into smaller bites and how to.

Somedays I choose only one or two small things to do and count that as making progress because I did them. Instead of beating yourself up for not doing more or how well you did it, look to what you have done as a success for the day!

For a mom of young children it maybe that she put dinner on the table or fed the children 3 meals a day. Because it is physically exhausting taking care of babies and young children. Latter it is mentally exhausting with teens. Also it is much more important to spend time with those little ones. Let them know they are loved, valued, and teach them by example how to be calm and peaceful than having the cleanest house on the block.

Change is scary. It requires leaving our comfort zone but isn’t that what we want? Our comfort zone is not so comfortable, we may even be miserable! We want out. Do you find yourself asking questions like is there more to life than this? Or thinking “There must be a better way”. Fear of the unknown is great. Patrick Doyle says we only change for one of two reasons. Inspiration or Desperation. Are you Desperate enough to change? Pain is the biggest motivating factor.

If your in a difficult relationship and don’t see it as toxic yet, you may be confused or think your going crazy. If so you are being manipulated. To get a clear picture of your situation, study Controlling, manipulating, and Narcissistic people. One book I recommend is by Patricia Evans, Verbally Abusive Relationship, How to Recognize them and How to Respond. Also You Tube videos by Patrick Doyle, UNSafe people, Emotional Abuse and more.

Fear – How will I make it financially? I didn’t care if I had to become a Walmart greeter, I was getting out of this Verbally abusive situation. I was willing to do what it takes and figure it out as I go. I also knew God would guide me in what i needed to do and help me each step of the way.

Yes I am a Christian and I don’t know how people make it through difficult and painful situations without God. He has been my comfort, counselor and guide. I don’t think I could have made it without Him.

I decided to Make NO Decisions out of Fear. I would not let Fear stop me from moving forward. Staying in the situation I was in, was NOT an option. Decide you will not allow Fear to KEEP you where you are. Decide you will NOT let Fear STOP you! Make a plan, start today, there are no surprises, you know what is going on. You may be in denial and have to do some Heart work/soul searching, but start today.